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I’ve never been a person to diet so I can’t really relate to everyone who’s tried and failed (although I can definitely appreciate their efforts and attempts and would always support them). My philosophy has been, “I know what to eat and I know the key to it all is “moderation” and 6 small meals per day”. I do know that I need to learn what all to eat at each meal to be sure I get the balance I need (carbs, proteins, fats). My real problem is that I go back and forth on wanting to lose weight. I’m 51, single, struggle with emotional problems (for which I’m seeing psych for) and I just don’t care what I look like anymore. I do sometimes but then I say “well, I’m happy so what does it matter!” I mean I want to look presentable but I think happiness is really about what is inside, not what is outside. I’ve been healthy physically so I just have kept on binging on Ben and Jerry’s frequently. And I’m so busy that I’ve gone to eating the Smart Ones frozen meals almost daily, oh, and a lot of peanut butter and jelly sandwiches (although with 100% fruit jelly and Organic Peanut butter and 15 Whole Grain bread. Then I have raw almonds and rice cakes to snack on and generally cherry tomatoes too and dried apricots. I eat raw Oatmeal and raisins with no sugar or milk most mornings for breakfast. Then I most always skip lunch. I guess the reason I got this program is to see if I can get the motivation from others to lose weight. I have started feeling sleepy most of the time so I think the weight is probably bothering me more than I wish to admit. I’m 5’1″ and 145 lbs. and I really need to be at about 115 lbs so I know I have some work to do. And I know exercise would help but I haven’t had the motivation to do that either. I have the Wii Fit program and I love it when I do it unfortunately I haven’t gotten on the board for years!
OK, so for after telling you my life story, sorry for rambling – can any of you help motivate me?
Thanks so much! Susan Meyer
Oh and just a quick few things more about me – I never had kids so I don’t have them or grandkids to get me motivated to look good or go out and about doing things. I share an apartment with my brother and we really enjoy just plopping down on the couch every night and watching our favorite shows. I know that’s ok if I exercise in the morning but can’t motivate myself to do that anymore. My brother has a high metabolism so he has always been very thin and can eat whatever he wants. However, his habits are very bad – 3-4 beers every night, lots of steaks (although they are lean), pork chops, (some chicken which I’ll give him credit for), hostess cakes and ice cream sandwich bars – generally something fattening every night. I would love to have those but I can’t have just one (just cannot do it – I’ve learned I just can’t have that stuff around or I’ll eat it all at one time.) He eats veggies but they are all canned. So these two things make it all harder for me to get inspired to get healthier and look better.
Thanks again for listening!
Susan Meyer
Hi! If you are looking for motivation and inirations you need to join us in Successful Beginnings and Support. We’d love to have you. Debbie
Hi! If you are looking for motivation and inspirations you need to join us in Successful Beginnings and Support. We’d love to have you. Debbie
I have just started at 60 to realise that something Has to Change! I used to be blah blah blah many years ago etc..but now I am (the scales may as well shout at me)188 pounds and am 5.5″. I have not told my husband as he is the same weight(ouch)but he is a normal weight for a bloke and plays golf etc. I have a large gallstone so cannot safely do fatty foods really anymore. Anyway, somewhere has to be the turning point and today is got to be that date. I appreciate any community support from new would be friends on here. I have created the menu and as a veggie/vegan and forced to buy lots of goody fresh food-there should have been no need for this huge weight gain but it has crept up over 11 years and will not go down safely unless I do this plan. So…the treadmill is waiting patiently in the lounge as it the gym/swimming pool local walks etc. I do not need to get a dog to motivate me, just need this connection with other people and have tried weightwatchers and hated myself and everything about it, this makes more sense! So welcome aboard me hearties out there, let’s prepare for that voyage that makes the change for us all! Yvette x
we have to help each other..that is the most important bit..we are putting out cards on the table, heartfelt, all options are up…no safe hiding place LOL…honesty is the best policy..and is it not great that we have this space to share and care? So..onwards and downwards(scale wise).. the important thing to remember is not to be hard on ourselves here..honest yes..but we can be the support we all need and that is the main thing..let us join in a hopeful happy regime, each day is that new day that gives us all the chance to make the difference to our health and happiness .. good luck and have a joyful Monday XX
Thanks to you all that replied to me. Do the Group posts go into the Group Forums page too or are they all separate from each other? I don’t want to get involved in too many things at one time.
Right! You can just talk in the general TDC forums or you can go to group ,see existing groups, then click on the one you want!! Debbie
I am 51 year old as well. I was physically and emotional abused up in to my twenties. Suffered from an eating disorder since I was 15.
I am married and have three children.My son suffered from tourettes when he was 6 to about 13. Then like the doctor said the tics subsides.
We then found out he had a learning disability.My teenage daughter suffered from depression for many years and now seems to be getting better. My children were bullied in elementary school. I changed schools for them many times.During this time I suffered from PTSD.
I thought is would never go away. I just kept telling myself that i wanted to be happy and just forget what happened in the past and move on. Eventually the PTSD subsided and went away. I did the frozen diet food thing. It does not taste that great and has too much salt. Buy foods that are healthy like fish or lean chicken. You can steam,bake or broil. Add a vegetable with it and make sure use olive or any natural oil to your foods.Never skip a meal because your body goes into starvation mode and slows down your metabolism.I just started listening to a hypnotist on cd. It is called “I Can Make You Thin”. by Paul McKenna.There were so many times when I wanted to give up and something won’t let me.Maybe it’s my intuition saying “you can do it”.
So hang in there.There are many people fighting the same demons.
Good luck !Oh telepath as a former teacher your story breaks my heart. so would like to talk to you and encourage you! And susan you ask for motivation?? Well we have some of the most precious people in our group that want to motivate and encourage.WE have a chat forum that is called tell us your story because all of have one… one that is worth hearing! No judgement no condemnation just listenin and compassion towards others who hurt about the same thing we do … weight. The peole in the groupsw cannot see this .You have to go to the group you want to see it and type it in there.You are both precious. and gullen I am 63 and realize that I ,too, have to change.It’s NOW or NEVER. So to all three of you I lay out there an invitation to take this journey together in Successful Beginnings and Support.
Hi there Susan, I think you just leave a message as you have done and people respond, there does not seem to be a live chat facility, maybe if there was a facebook page and we all joined up, then we could do instant chats. It is such a good platform this to make a sharing possible, I find it deeply touching the whole business, much more so than any weightwatcher’s programme in the UK. The set up for this is a little odd as you’d think there would be a “who’s on line right now”set up, but upi can email me on gullwing@dsl.pipex.com, or else I guess we could all offer each other our skype details and do a joint skype chat venture perhaps. Anyway, hope it goes well for you, I have had a couple of weeks slip and feel total crap about it..it makes such a difference to the humour eating nutritional food, not crap..an honest difference. XX Yvette
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