Right foods wrong order

Ok I know most of you are going to read this and say yeah right!!!! I have been eating healthy all my life I love cheese, fruits, veggies etc etc etc everything that i put on my menu are things I already eat everyday. My boyfriend always yells at me telling me I need to quit eating all the crap I eat. I am not a big meat eater, chicken, turkey and pork, is about all I like along with seafood but I’m not going to go out of my way to buy it just for me. My boyfriend is not a big fresh seafood fanatic. I don’t care for eggs either, nor do I care for salt. I just want to know that I am doing the right thing, and hopefully I can drop about 40 lbs, this is all belly fat mind you and I’m not happy with it. I am menopausal and I started packing on the pounds about 2 years ago, I have always carried my weight well till that point.
Plus I am a bartender I work nights and weekends and usually don’t like eating the fatty fried foods we serve at work so I wait until I get home to eat. This in it self i know is bad and most of the time I go to bed with out eating, or I go for quick things like burritos, popcorn, almonds.
I really would like to know if I miss one or two meals is it going to hurt more than it helps. I don’t Normally eat as much as is suggested, so i need help understand how this is going to effect me.
Thanks to all